I just became a grandparent... so bear with me.
I have thought for decades about wealth - how it's created, who pursues it and why, and how it gets passed on. You won't be surprised to know that purchasing a home early in life was an important component of my own wealth strategy. My husband and I went on to build a successful business in the legal staffing space. With three children of our own, we thought early and often about how to ensure their financial literacy and how to support their desire to achieve their own successes.
As a country, we are at the beginning of what has been called the greatest wealth transfer in history. Nearly $124 trillion in assets is set to change hands through 2048. Generational wealth can be a controversial topic: some believe kids should inherit all, while others think this is a curse. I have always believed in the mantra, "give your kids enough to do something, but not enough to do nothing."
But more important than anything is the importance of telling the stories of how wealth was created. If you spend any time on social media, it's easy to think that access to fancy things, and travel to fabulous places should be guaranteed to everyone. It's important to tell the stories of the struggles, extremely hard work, long hours, personal sacrifices and day-in and day-out commitment.
I remember attending my husband's business school class about family businesses many years ago. The professor referenced the concept of "three generations: shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves." As the class was made up of students from all over the world, it was fascinating to learn that this concept exists in many, many cultures. In England: "From clogs to clogs in three generations." In China: "Wealth does not last beyond three generations." In Japan: "Rice paddies to rice paddies in three generations." In Scotland: "The father buys, the son builds, the grandchild sells, and his son begs."
According to studies by The Williams Group, approximately 90% of third-generation wealth is lost or destroyed. So all of this is to underscore the importance of telling stories to our children and grandchildren.
1. Be a part of their fiscal literacy. It is essential and should be compulsory learning for all, not just heirs.
2. Give them a clear understanding of how the wealth was created and earned and what it will take not to squander these efforts.
3. Speak to them about your values and consider making any inheritance aligned with those values - be it education, health, charitable endeavors... and/or real estate.
Whether $100k or $100 million, delivering an inheritance to future generations may be less important than teaching the fiscal responsibility and know-how. So tell the stories. And write the letter to the third generation, your great-grandchildren. In so doing, you bestow an incredible gift.